Parenting a previously abused child presents unique challenges. The challenges a parent may face are bed-wetting, night-terrors, withdrawal, or temper tantrums, to name a few. A child who has been abused has events that must be processed, that no child should be forced to face. A child struggling with previous abuse, is forced to deal with issues that are difficult for, even the most well-adjusted, adult. However, with tender care and absolute love, such challenges can be conquered and overcome.

As a parent of an abused child, support is absolutely necessary. Certainly, the parent of an abused child should seek support whenever possible, so that these challenges presented by child-rearing are not faced alone. Develop a team approach to assisting an abused child. Involve a counselor, pediatrician, supportive family members, and teachers. Any person who can offer expertise, care, and responsible advice should be involved in supporting the parent and the child.http://www.ericdigests.org/pre-9214/abused.htm

One very important lesson may have been incorporated by the previously abused child. And that is, people are bad and the world is not a safe place. Providing a safe home is important when caring for a child that has been abused.

A previously abused child may be prone to nightmares. If this is the case, as inconvenient as it may be, get up and reassure the child with voice and touch. Remind the child that the place they are now is safe and the person responsible for abuse cannot hurt them anymore.

Allow time for plenty of joy and laughter. Certainly, this has been an aspect missing from a child that has been abused. Make silly jokes. Be silly. A child won't mind. The process of seeing a child laugh or smile may take time. However, in time, the effort can be richly rewarded.http://helpguide.org/mental/parenting_bonding_reactive_attachment_disorder.htm

Without doubt parenting a previously abused child takes tremendous patience. And that means building a strong support network, for both parent and child. Enlist the support of family, to help when caring for a child may be overwhelming. A pediatrician can assist with potential developmental delays and address any other concerns. A therapist trained in treating children who have been abused, can prove to be an invaluable resource. Undoubtedly, a parent is the center of a child's world and even more so, after the tragedy of abuse. Do not be afraid to ask for help when needed. http://www.conductdisorders.com/

Children who have been abuse should not be subjected to further violence.

Be a good role model. Express values through how daily life is lived.

Make an effort to comment on behavior that is good and should be reinforced.

Make a 'chore chart'. Give the child a star every time a chore is completed or a good effort by the child has been made. The bed does not have to be made perfectly every time, sometimes it is enough if a child has put forth good energy and effort.

Include homework to be completed on the chore chart.

Stay calm when disciplining. Getting upset and yelling helps to teach the child that it is ok to lose control.

Be as patient as possible.

Allow a break from parenting, every once in a while. Both parent and child can benefit. http://www.medpagetoday.com/Pediatrics/DomesticViolence/10961